Learning to have gratitude for what you have in life can sometimes be challenging.
Many times we compare our lives to other people, not really knowing what goes on behind the scenes.
This goes well with the lives of celebrities.
They have all the money💰 and the fame, but some could be struggling with a drug addiction💊 or involved with the wrong people.
There are some who have died or killed themselves because they were so depressed or unhappy with their lives.
But wait, they have everything they want in life…right?
Crazy as this may sound, but it is possible to have everything you want in life and still be unhappy.😕
When you look at other people’s lives, you only get a glimpse (usually the prettier side too) of what their lives entail.
You don’t see the ugly side (if there is one) unless it comes out in the news…
And how accurate is the news nowadays?
Appreciate What You Have With Mindfulness
Mindfulness can be used to change the way you think and help you to focus on and appreciate what’s important.
You may not pay attention to what goes on in your mind.
This could cause you to fall victim to your emotions.
Comparing yourself to others is a huge sign of giving into your emotions.
You may see someone have something you want and then all of a sudden your life is terrible compared to theirs.
I struggle with this myself.
I would compare what I have with others and think that I don’t have enough or I don’t have that one thing that will ultimately change my life for the better and make me complete or some nonsense like that.
The thing is I have everything that I need in this present moment.
Are there things I want…?
Are there things that you want…?
I am pretty sure there is!
But it is good to appreciate what you have right now because it could all be gone in a blink of an eye. 👁
This all boils down to what you choose to focus on.
Mindfulness shows you exactly how to push your emotions out of the way so that you can change your perspective on life.
This ultimately helps you to be happier😊 and content with what you currently have.
An Attitude of Gratitude🙏🏾
This is one attitude that is acceptable to have.
Having this kind of attitude means putting yourself in a state of mind where you are focusing on the things you’re grateful for.
A simple way to do this is by taking time at the end of each day and writing down things that made you happy.
Before going to bed, try to focus on those things.
This is my gratitude book👇🏾 where I write down those things I am grateful for.
By doing this every night, you will be surprised by how rejuvenated you will feel in the morning.☀️
You will be able to wake up with a better outlook on your life and current situations you are in.
So try to end every day by writing at least 5 to 10 things you’re thankful for and reflecting on them.
Try to make these things different each day and avoid repetition.
Trust me, there are more things you are grateful for that you may not even realize!
Ways To Be Grateful🙏🏾
Sometimes the things you are grateful for will be pretty obvious like your health, the people you love and having a delicious meal that day.
Focusing on the people you love, in particular, is a great way to be more grateful for those individuals.
This can actually help to improve your relationship with them in the long run too.
At the same time, you may be thankful for those smaller silly things like the cereal you are going to have tomorrow or the new Marvel movie that is coming out.
These are all legitimate things too!
It doesn’t matter how small or large the item or experience is that you are thankful for.
Write down whatever makes you grateful in your journal!
Try to carry this exercise over into your daily life.
You don’t have to carry your ‘gratitude notebook’📓 around with you, but if it helps then do it!
If you have a notebook app on your phone like Microsoft OneNote then you can always make a ‘gratitude page’ inside it.
That is what I did!
Each time you think of something you don’t have, or life isn’t going the way you want it, try to think about what you do have.
Don’t have that big flat screen TV 🖥️ yet, but you have a computer…?
Be grateful that you have a computer💻 and can watch pretty much any movie or TV show on it.
Thank God for Hulu!🙌🏾
Try to find the bright side of everything.
Who knows, you could start to use the things you have in a more creative light. 💡
Your Inner and Outer Dialogue
The way you talk to people and yourself says a lot about your gratitude level.
If your inner dialogue is negative, then you will pour that negativity onto other people.
For example, if you are complaining about different circumstances in your life to your friends and family all the time, you may actually be damaging your relationship with them.
Would you want to be around someone who complains about everything that is ‘going wrong’ in their life?
They may begin to see you as a negative, ungrateful person and who wants to be around that…?
The next time you find yourself saying or thinking anything negative, try to follow it up with 2 positive things about yourself or that situation to counteract the negative.
You’ll feel happier😊 and people will begin to see you as a more positive person that they would want to be around!
To Wrap Things Up…
Being mindful of what you have and being grateful for it can truly bring more happiness into your life.
It sounds like a weird concept, but give it a try and see what happens.
Also, try not to compare yourself to other people.
Their life may look glamorous on the outside, but you truly have NO IDEA what they may be going through behind closed doors.
It could be absolutely nothing and their lives are truly perfect, or they could be struggling with a lot of things like depression, insecurities, an abusive relationship, violence, and the list goes on and on.
You just never know.
So try not to compare.
To this day, I still struggle with comparing myself to others and wonder “what if I had their life??”
But then I bring myself back to focus on the people whom I love that are in my life and the things that I have currently.
I try to find joy in the little things that I have and try to share that joy with others as well.
Anyways, this is how mindfulness can help you develop an attitude of gratitude and help you to appreciate the life that you have.
Here’s a quick 10-minute gratitude guided meditation that Tony Robbins created that you can do every morning ☀️or every night before you go to bed. 😴
Learning to be a more grateful person truly can open up doors in your life that you may not have realized were even there, to begin with.
What you may not realize is that you have EVERYTHING that you NEED right in front of you.
I see gratitude as living and tending to a beautiful garden, like the Garden of Eden for example.👩🏾🌾
This garden is filled with beautiful greenery like trees,🌲 🌳 🌴 flowers,🌷 🌹 🌺 🌸 🌼 🌻🍄 🌿and fruit.🍎 🍊 🍌 🍇🍍 🥭 🥝
Now this garden is yours for the taking and you can do anything you want in this garden.
One day you realize that there is ONE specific tree🌳 you really want to produce fruit,🍓 🍈 🍒 🍑but for some reason, it just doesn’t.
Now you give all of your time and attention to this tree to try to get it to produce fruit.
While you do this you neglect the other trees 🌲🌴 and flowers🌷 🌸 🌼 in your garden.
Now, these guys begin to grow weak and start to die out.
Your once beautiful, luscious garden is turning into a bare wasteland.
What this is depicting is the things in your life that you may be neglecting because you are focusing on that 1 or 2 things that you really want that you don’t have yet.
You could be missing out on some really amazing people, places, things that you have RIGHT NOW and once they are gone…they are gone!
I say all of this to say, try NOT to focus too much on what you don’t have, but instead on what you do have and continue to strive towards those things that you want.
To your happiness,
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